9 Powerful Strategies to Be a Priority
How to Make a Man Miss You: Complete Guide
Based on the psychological strategies of expert Alexia Munhoz
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Understanding the Problem: Why aren’t you a priority?
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you felt you weren’t a priority for someone important in your life? This feeling is unpleasant and gets even worse when this someone is very close to you, like a romantic partner.
According to psychotherapist specializing in relationships, Alexia Munhoz, there are proven methods to become a priority in someone’s life. In this guide, you will learn nine powerful psychological strategies that can help you ensure you are always at the top of his priority list.
The Psychology Behind Absence and Missing Someone
Before we dive into the strategies, it’s important to understand the psychological principles that support them:
Fundamental Psychological Principles
Principle of Scarcity
We value more what is rare or hard to get. When your presence becomes scarce, your value increases in the other person’s perception.
Effect of Absence
Strategic emotional or physical distance activates areas of the brain related to desire and appreciation.
Emotional Investment
The more someone invests emotionally in a relationship, the more value they will give it to justify their investment.
Fear of Loss
The fear of losing someone is a stronger motivator than the prospect of gaining something new.
Quiz: Are you being taken for granted?
Answer the questions below to find out if you are being taken for granted in your relationship:
1. How often do you initiate contact with him?
2. When he invites you to something last minute, you usually:
3. When you disagree, you:
Result: You are being taken for granted
Your answers indicate that you prioritize the relationship बहुत, often at the expense of your own needs. The strategies in this guide will be particularly important for you.
Result: Intermediate situation
You have moments of independence, but you still give in in important situations. Applying the strategies in this guide will help to better balance the dynamics of the relationship.
Result: You maintain your independence
Congratulations! You already practice many of the recommended behaviors. The strategies in this guide can help refine your approach and further strengthen your position.
9 Powerful Psychological Strategies
These strategies are based on proven psychological principles and can transform the way you are seen and valued in a relationship.
Strategy 1: Stop Initiating Communication
If you are always starting conversations, he gets used to your efforts and starts to see you as less important. The solution is simple: stop initiating communication and observe the results.
If he really cares about you, he will make contact. This may seem counterintuitive, but it is effective because:
- It creates curiosity about what you are doing
- It breaks the pattern of predictability you have established
- It makes him notice your absence
Strategy 2: Avoid Being Always Available
In relationships, quality is more important than quantity. The more available you are, the more likely you are to be taken for granted. This doesn’t mean playing games, but rather prioritizing yourself.
If you are consistently flexible and always available to please, it’s time to start prioritizing your own needs. This conveys the message that you have a life beyond him.
Strategy 3: Maintain a Little Mystery
People are naturally attracted to the unknown and the enigmatic. The fascination with mystery is captivating and makes people feel more connected to something or someone that emanates curiosity.
Avoid revealing everything about yourself quickly. Gradually give hints about your hobbies and your life. The goal is to keep him intrigued and eager to know more about you.
- Respond vaguely to certain questions
- Avoid going into detail about your entire past
- Keep some parts of your life private
Strategy 4: Allow Him to Invest in You
Who is more inclined to see as a priority: someone who has invested time in you or someone who has invested nothing? If you want him to see you as a priority, allow him to invest in you.
This can be done in several ways:
- Let him invest his time in you
- Reject plans you know you won’t be able to keep
- Show that your time is valuable
- Make him wait for you sometimes
This attitude conveys the message that you are not just anyone and that he needs to work to earn a place in your life.
Strategy 5: Prioritize Your Needs
This doesn’t mean becoming selfish, but make sure you don’t put yourself in a position where you are not a priority. Don’t put yourself in the background.
If you know someone doesn’t like you enough and won’t treat you as you deserve, why would you want to be around this person? Surround yourself with people who see you as important.
Remember: If you want to be a priority in someone’s life, make sure you are a priority in your own life.
Strategy 6: Don’t Make Him the Center of Your Life
Often, people are attracted to things they can’t easily have. The more someone feels they need to work to achieve something, the more they will value it.
Therefore, don’t show desperation for his attention. When you don’t put someone at the center of your life, you create space for him to work to earn your interest and attention.
- Maintain your own hobbies and interests
- Continue cultivating your friendships
- Don’t abandon your personal projects for him
- Build a full life regardless of the relationship
Strategy 7: Create in Him the Fear of Losing You
This is one of the most powerful psychological techniques. People are generally more motivated by the fear of losing something than by the prospect of gaining.
To make someone fear losing you, you need to make your presence valuable. To achieve this:
- Start to distance yourself emotionally
- Share fewer of your feelings and confidences
- Spend more time with other people
- Dedicate less time to him
This will make him feel that he is losing importance and space in your life. This strategy is powerful, but it should be used carefully and in homeopathic doses.
Strategy 8: Create Your Own Happiness
To be a priority in someone’s life, it’s important to create your own happiness and not depend on him or anyone else to be happy.
Although it’s great to have someone to rely on who makes us feel good, depending on that person for your happiness can lead to emotional dependence and disappointments.
Creating your own happiness will not only make you happier in the long run, but it will also make you a more balanced and attractive person in the eyes of others.
Strategy 9: Be Willing to Walk Away
This is an important step, although it can be scary. Showing that you are not afraid to leave conveys the message that you will not accept less than you deserve.
You will demonstrate that you do not allow someone to treat you poorly. The right person will naturally start to see you as a priority and will strive to keep you in their life.
Self-knowledge and self-love are fundamental in this step. It is important to demonstrate that you are not in this person’s hands and that you are not afraid to leave if you are not treated with respect.
Expected Results: Timeline
Applying these strategies does not bring instant results. Understanding the expected timeline helps maintain realistic expectations:
First 2 weeks
Adaptation phase. You may feel discomfort when changing your behavior patterns. He may not notice significant changes yet.
2-4 weeks
He will start to notice the changes. There may be attempts to test if you will revert to previous patterns. Stay firm.
1-2 months
Readjustment period in the relationship. He will start to show more effort to maintain your attention and interest.
2-3 months
Consolidation of the new balance. If the strategies worked, you will notice a significant change in how he prioritizes the relationship.
Important:
The timeline may vary depending on his personality, the intensity and duration of the relationship, and the consistency with which you apply the strategies. Remember that the goal is not to manipulate, but to establish a balanced and healthy relationship.
Frequently Asked Questions
These strategies are most effective in romantic relationships, but many of the principles can be adapted for friendships and even family relationships. The important thing is to adjust the intensity and context to the type of relationship.
There is a difference between manipulation and establishing healthy boundaries. These strategies do not aim to control or harm the other person, but rather to create a balance where you are not devalued. The goal is to value yourself and build a healthier relationship for both.
If after applying these strategies consistently for a reasonable period he does not show changes, this may be an indication that the relationship does not meet your emotional needs. In this case, it is worth reflecting on whether this is the type of relationship you want to maintain in the long term.
It is not recommended to apply all strategies simultaneously, as this may seem like a very drastic change and cause confusion. Start by implementing one or two strategies that seem most relevant to your specific situation and gradually incorporate others as you feel comfortable.
Indicators that you are on the right track include: feeling more confident and less anxious in the relationship, noticing that he is more attentive and responsive to your needs, perceiving an increase in his initiatives to maintain contact and organize dates, and feeling a greater balance of power in the relationship.
Conclusion: The Power of Self-Worth
By implementing these strategies, you are not only changing how he sees you, but also how you see yourself. The true power of these techniques lies in developing a stronger sense of self-esteem and self-love.
When you value yourself enough to establish healthy boundaries and not accept less than you deserve, you will naturally become a priority not only for him, but for all important people in your life.
Remember: the ultimate goal is not to manipulate or control, but to create balanced and healthy relationships where both partners value each other mutually.
“When you make yourself a priority in your own life, you teach others how they should treat you.” — Alexia Munhoz
